Dear Orlando,
I have the hots for a girl I’m friends with and I’ve been slowly getting her to like me by hanging out with her and being the hilarious and attentive guy I am. We’ve been hanging out a few weeks and things were going well until my friend “Dick” came into the picture and started hitting on my girl. “Dick” is the kind of guy that has no problems talking to women. I’m not the most outgoing guy so getting to know girls is always hard for me but I’m pretty sure I can get the girl if I have sufficient time, but “Dick” is ruining my game. How do I let him know he’s stepping on my toes?
Yours,
Slowly But Surely

Dear Slowly,
You have a few options here. Firstly, you can tell “Dick” to back off a bit. If you’re buddies this should be easy. Just tell him you like the girl and he’ll give you some space. As far as taking the casual approach to get the girl to like you, that’s probably going to end up working in your favor. Girls like a bit of mystery and a challenge. There’s nothing less sexy than a super-aggressive jerk who is overconfident and in-your-face (I speak from personal experience. Overconfident, tacky guys hit on me all the time!). That being said, you do need to indicate interest in your girl, even if you’re doing it more subtly than “Dick.” While overconfidence is unsexy, so are guys who don’t show enough interest. So make sure you’re letting your lady know you like her and tell that “Dick” to back off.
Love,
Orlando

Todays Mantra: Be subtle, but not too subtle.